Bored, Boring, Boredom

In a relationship between opposite sexes so-called ‘pacaran’, a contact, a communication process, some sort of touch in any medium, ways, t ypes or whatsoever, is inevitable. We surely must generate and furthermore maintain a very intense and continuous attachment with our couple so that -in my humble opinion- any kind of obstacles and problems are overcome.

Speaking of physical terms, for how far and how intimate ones should consider doing with their couples? I, myself, and obviously every other ‘in a relationship’ person, have my own principles and values. Regardless the moral and religion aspect, is it us who determine the limit, or else justification from surroundings build ours?

So this friend of mine, who is consciously aware and open about her experience, told us about her personal experience. Quite shocking if I may say, at least for me -who is completely ‘innocent and naïve’, as they say-. Things I thought could only be held in a fantasy or in terms of joking, are in fact can definitely be done for real. I was stunned.. crawling for a grip to hold on to. What am I heading at?

It’s not that I won’t do it, although I would prefer say, “God have mercy, please forbid me and my Virgo-ness sexual drive!”, but I’m so damn afraid that my permissiveness on such things are untightened and there I’ll be. And it’s not that I’m trying to judge people who are ‘sexually free’ are bad, but I’m a very ‘easily influenced’ kind of person. And hey.. I’m a Virgo. It’s easy to tell, I have the same urge and I could be one of them. Hopefully not, I pray..

My other friend told me once, she heard that most of couples who’ve done it -I assume, no need to explain what ‘it’ is-, begin with the condition where boredom attacks and there’s nothing else to talk about nor to do. Boredom, get bored.. a condition where people are dying to get innovation and improvement of whatever. There’s a lot things show up when boredom surrounds us. Want to know what else? An affair.

You see, I’ve met lots of love affair. The ones I’ve experienced myself and the ones I’ve learned from those around me. Sometimes, I can draw a very straight line after I found out what lies beneath that construct an affair: getting bored with relationship they’re in and the situation between them. Of course, there’s a whole lot more excuses to blame when it comes to the question, “What makes you cheat on your couple?”.

Again, I’m not saying, “I’m a very faithful and loyal person, I won’t cheat on my couple!”. Nor judging those who’ve done it or doing it are evil. In fact, I did it once or twice (tapi bukan sama kamu kok, sayang.. sumpe deeehh..). But then again, what surrounds you can bend you, they automatically can affect you. For that I’m sure, but to fall in to the same hole three times? I try not to..

So what’s my point, you said? How to manage relationship, especially involving love and affection to opposite sex? Should we give everything, our whole body -my focus of attention- and soul to the ones we love? Should we work very hard not to let boredom distract us? Not even a slight chance? All I can say is, just be very thankful for what we have, and please do…. COMMUNICATE!!!!